You may have attachments to others, but this is merely a belief in separation—a perceived separation between yourself and others.
Separation that we perceive in our dual nature is only an illusion. Character and our inner self are not separate from each other. We are interconnected as one.
You are influenced by past experiences and actions, both those you have done and those done to you. You might still feel anger, bitterness, or resentment toward others, but your brother and sister's actions represent a distorted perception of separation between yourself and others. Now, you need to release the connecting link that is still holding you back and let go. Know that you are one inner essence, and realize that there is no one to forgive except yourself. This includes both the character and our inner self.
Forgiveness: Releasing The Past, Embracing The Future
When it comes to forgiveness, it's important to view everyone from a higher perspective. See your brothers and sisters as souls on their own journeys of evolution. They have free will that you should not violate. Instead of trying to save them or harboring anger and resentment, release the connection between you. They have different identities and perspectives. When we perceive others with different belief systems, we often see it as an attack on our own identity. This is why we judge; this perceived attack feels like a wrong done to us, leading to lingering anger and resentment.
Those unable to forgive must judge to justify their inability to forgive. The speed at which you rise above judging yourself and others determines how easily you forgive.
We judge others because they often don't align with our own identities. Their differing values and belief systems conflict with ours. We perceive them as separate because we identify with a false sense of self.
This is the basis for many wars and conflicts—an "us versus them" mentality. We belong to social groups based on nation, race, gender, political ideology, or religion, and we oppose groups that don't align with our identity and beliefs. We either fight against these groups or seek their acceptance. We may believe our group needs the approval and acknowledgment of others to be considered worthy, thus fueling conflict. Something terribly wrong may have happened in the past, and it continues to hold us back.
When you introspect on your thoughts and mental images, you may find memories of past wrongdoings and traumatic events. You are likely still judging those involved because you perceive these events as horribly unfair.